Healing a Broken Heart: The First Step to Becoming Who You Were Meant to Be

A broken heart is more than just emotional pain, it’s a wound that can shape how we see ourselves, how we show up in relationships, and how we move through the world. Whether caused by the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or even the death of a dream, heartbreak is a deep, soul-level experience. And yet, many people minimize it, bury it, or try to outrun it. The truth is: healing your heart is the most important work you’ll ever do.

Heartbreak Has Many Faces

Most people associate heartbreak with romantic loss, but the truth is, it runs much deeper. Some people carry heartbreak from childhood, from the family they never had, or the love and safety they never received. Others are heartbroken over opportunities missed, or over lives they imagined for themselves that never manifested.

No matter the source, heartache affects how we interact with others. Adults walk around every day with unhealed childhood wounds, seeing the world through an emotional lens that distorts memory, truth, and identity. We minimize our experiences to survive. We dismiss them because the weight feels too heavy to carry long-term.

The Ways We Avoid Healing

Instead of confronting heartbreak, many people choose distraction: staying busy, people-pleasing, overachieving, or surrounding themselves with constant noise. Anything to avoid sitting with the pain. But suppression doesn’t equal healing. In fact, it creates toxic patterns that pulls us toward others who are also stuck in cycles of complaining, victimhood, and emotional stagnation.

You may ask: Why do we keep repeating the past if it’s already over?

Because we've built a home for it in our minds. Because staying in victim mode feels safer than stepping into responsibility. Because we’re still waiting for someone (anyone)to save us from the pain someone else caused. This leaves too much room for just anyone to walk in and do everything more damage. 

But here’s the truth: your heart is your responsibility. Healing is your job, not theirs.

Stop Nurturing the Pain

Coddling a broken heart only ties it to your identity. Harsh as it sounds, it’s exhausting to live every day wounded. The person who hurt you isn’t carrying your pain, you are. They're likely living their life, unaware or in denial, while you're still dragging around the emotional aftermath.

You can’t fix toxic. You can only heal yourself.

So… Where Do You Start?

You start from the bottom. Not rock bottom~ the root.

Everything begins at the root chakra, the energetic center that governs your sense of safety and security. You are an energetic being, and your healing must happen both emotionally and energetically. When your energy is blocked, especially in your heart, everything else in life feels misaligned.

Science backs this. We have seven energy centers in the body (chakras): root, sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, and crown. The lower three keep you grounded. The heart is your center. The top three help you access higher wisdom and spiritual alignment. But to reach the top, your heart must be open.

A broken heart builds walls, not boundaries. It creates fear, not trust. Anger, not love. Sadness, not joy.

A Healed Heart Is the Gateway to Your Purpose

You cannot fully manifest your purpose with a blocked heart. Yes, hurt people can heal, but until they do, they will still hurt others, often without realizing it. Survival mode traps you in reactivity, fear, and emotional burnout.

It’s time to graduate into radical acceptance, forgiveness, and deep self-accountability.

You are the CEO of your life. If you don’t like the way it’s going, look inward. You can’t change the past, but you can change your relationship with it. You can change your present thoughts, raise your vibration, and shift your subconscious toward healing and empowerment.

What you think becomes what you feel. What you feel becomes your reality.

Your Heart Deserves to Be Free

Work on yourself. Embody the highest version of who you came here to be. Release fear. Let go of comparison. Say goodbye to the broken version of you that once needed protection.

Heal your heart. Heal your wounds. Become one with yourself.

And then, go live your own happily ever after. ♥️

Ready to begin your healing journey?
If this message spoke to your soul, I invite you to connect with me for a 1:1 life coaching session. Let’s work together to restore your heart, raise your energy, and align you with the life you were born to live.

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